The Real Reason we Judge Other People (& What it Says about Us)

first_imgThe Real Reason we Judge Other People (& What it Says About Us).When we judge, does it reflect others or us?Is there a judgment about judging?We all judge. We are predisposed to this natural tendency; it is part of human nature.But why do we judge?“Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.” ~ Carl JungThis quote sums it up all. Judging is easy and doesn’t require much thinking or reasoning. Our brains are wired to make automatic judgments about others’ behaviours so that we can move through the world without spending much time or energy in understanding everything we see.Understanding is harder as it requires deep thinking, patience, compassion, and an open mind.Human behaviour specialist Dr John Demartini refers to this phenomenon as “self-righteous” and “self-wrongeous.”Judging is simply our attempt to create a hierarchy of better than and less than, superior to and inferior to, and to define worth to everyone and everything that we meet. We have the innate urge to be right, to be better, to be superior—always. Our binary view of the world around us necessitates us to be either right or wrong, so we tend to judge.Here are two theories in psychology that explain the phenomenon of judging:Attribution Theory“It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you place the blame.” ~ Oscar WildeHumans are motivated to assign causes to their actions and behaviours. In social psychology, attribution is the process by which individuals explain the causes of behaviour and events.Attributions are thoughts we have about others that help us make sense of why people do the things they do.As exists attribution theory, there exist attribution biases, too, like fundamental attribution error. More often, our focus is on the behaviour, ignoring the situation or the context or the circumstances which lead to that behaviour.Projection (Seeing Our Darkness in Others)“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness in other people.” ~ Carl JungAs per Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, “Although our conscious minds are avoiding our own flaws, they still want to deal with them on a deeper level, so we magnify those flaws in others.”We can only see in others what we have inside ourselves. First, we reject, then we project.Jung stated our shadow as the unknown, unconscious, dark side of our personality. According to Jung, the shadow—being instinctive and irrational—is prone to psychological projection in which perceived personal inferiority is recognized as a perceived moral deficiency in someone else.American-British psychologist Raymond Cattell, known for his psychometric research, identified 16 factors or dimensions of personality that we all possess. All of our personalities are actually made up of the same traits; we differ only in the degree to which each trait is expressed. According to Cattell, people simply express these traits in different ways, at different times, and in different areas of their lives. Some may be dominant, and some may be dormant.When we judge someone for something, we are actually judging ourselves as the very same thing; we just haven’t fully owned or accepted that trait yet within us.When we judge, does it reflect others or ourselves?“When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.” ~ Earl NightingaleThe world around us is our mirror, and judging someone does not define who they are—it defines who we are. More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves.The yardstick we use for ourselves is the yardstick we use for the world. The way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you.“If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.” ~ Hermann HesseEverything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves, a self-awareness. What we see in others is quite often what we see in ourselves, and what irritates us in others maybe what we don’t like in ourselves.Judging is relative, our constant comparison or validation of everything that we perceive with what we believe. Our beliefs may have been a function of our own personality traits, our conditioning (at multiple levels like societal, cultural, or religious), and our life experiences. So, judging is never absolute to others from their frame of reference.But, are people or their situations that we judge part of this equation? Certainly not. So how can we measure or judge something with a yardstick that cannot completely handle what it measures? It cannot be foolproof.Judging shuts us down and prevents us from understanding the full situation or a new truth that is not known yet.“Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow” ~ Doe ZantamataWhile judging, one gets stuck in a loop; one can evolve by consciously trying to escape that loop. Here are a few ways to do that:Be Open. Before we judge, let us seek to understand with an open mind.Be Curious. We can remain in curiosity, knowing that there is something about the situation that we may not fully understand.Be Empathetic. Let us be empathetic and give the benefit of the doubt to others for their situation or the circumstances that may not be in our full awareness.Be Self-Aware. Practice being self-aware through self-forgiveness, self-acceptance, and self-compassion. The more we understand ourselves, the more we can understand others; knowing our tendencies will help us assess fairly, patiently, compassionately.It’s unwise to say, “Stop judging others,” as all our attempts against our innate human nature may go in vain, as it’s not as straightforward as it appears. Instead, we can learn to become more self-aware when we judge, and through that awareness, move on to adopt more interesting thought patterns.We can also be more appreciative and compassionate of the world around us for what it is, rather than trying to fit it into our optics.“Be kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” ~ Ian MacLarenlast_img read more

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NASA astronaut accused of crime committed in space

first_imgABC News(CAPE CANAVERAL, Fla.) — Authorities are investigating the first allegation of a crime committed in space.Astronaut Anne McClain has been accused of unlawfully accessing her estranged spouse’s bank account aboard the International Space Station.McClain and her spouse, Summer Worden, have been engaged in a custody battle over Worden’s six year-old son Briggs after filing for divorce in October 2018.“Lt. Col Anne McClain has an accomplished military career, flew combat missions in Iraq and is one of NASA’s top astronauts,” NASA said in a statement. “She did a great job on her most recent mission to the International Space Station. As with all NASA employees NASA does not comment on personal, or personnel issues.”Worden, a former Airforce Intelligence Officer, claimed McClain got into her account as part of a plan to gain parental rights of her son.But McClain’s attorney said when she accessed the account, she was making sure the couple’s finances were in order as she had been doing for years using passwords that weren’t changed.McClain tweeted her response to the allegations writing, “There’s unequivocally no truth to these claims. We’ve been going through a painful, personal separation that’s now unfortunately in the media. I appreciate the outpouring of support and will reserve comment until after the investigation. I have total confidence in the IG process.”The two married in December 2014 but after filing for divorce nearly four years later, Worden argues since McClain did not legally adopt Briggs, she does not have custodial rights.ABC’s Chief Transportation Correspondent, David Kerley, spoke with McClain in 2018 about operating in space before her six-month stint aboard the International Space Station. When asked about training in the Astronaut Corps and going to space for the first time she said, “I do know that it as been something so magical that has given me such a purpose my whole life and I’m really looking forward to achieving it,” she said.McClain and Worden’s divorce trial is set for Sept. 17th in Houston.Copyright © 2019, ABC Radio. All rights reserved.last_img read more

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Lettuce Announces Special Limited Admission Movie Premiere And Q & A In NYC

first_imgFollowing the exciting announcement of a forthcoming documentary chronicling Lettuce’s explosion on the funk scene, titled Let Us Play, Live for Live Music and Lettuce are thrilled to reveal that we will be hosting a limited admission screening of the film’s premiere, followed by a Q & A with the band, at the stunning Anjelika Theater in NYC. Attendees of this once in a lifetime experience will also receive a digital download of their new album Crush, due out November 6th, as well as a signed limited edition movie poster. The premiere will take place on Tuesday, November 17th at 8 PM, following a massive two-night hometown run at NYC’s PlayStation Theater 11/13-14. Less than 100 tickets are available for the movie premiere here.Directed by Jay Sansone of Human Being Media and produced by Live for Live Music founder Kunj Shah, the 35-minute film merges footage from live sets, recording sessions, interviews, and candid scenes from the road. Filmed over a six-month period, the footage chronicles the mechanics of improvisation and the artistry behind making a funk record. Viewers will get an in-depth diagnosis of the band, who they are as artists, how they work together and use their ridiculous expertise to come up with funk music.WHEN: Tuesday, November 17, 2015 from 8:00 PM to 10:00 PMWHERE: Angelika – 18 West Houston Street New York, NY 10012Purchase tickets here.In the meantime, check out the trailer for Let Us Play below.last_img read more

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See Laura Linney & Cynthia Nixon Rotate Roles as The Little Foxes Begins on Broadway

first_img View Comments The Little Foxes Cynthia Nixon & Laura Linney(Photo: Emilio-Madrid-Kuser) Related Showscenter_img A new revival of Lillian Hellman’s The Little Foxes, starring Tony nominee Laura Linney and Tony winner Cynthia Nixon, begins performances tonight at the Samuel J. Friedman Theatre on Broadway. The unique production, featuring the two stars alternating in the roles of Regina Hubbard Giddens and Birdie Hubbard, is directed by Daniel Sullivan. The revival will officially open on April 19 with the limited run concluding on June 18.In addition to Linney and Nixon, the cast includes Emmy winner Richard Thomas as Horace, Darren Goldstein as Oscar, Michael McKean as Ben, David Alford as Mr. Marshall, Michael Benz as Leo Hubbard, Caroline Stefanie Clay as Addie, Francesca Carpanini as Alexandra Giddens and Charles Turner as Cal.Linney and Nixon play the roles of Regina and Birdie in repertory, appearing opposite each other at each performance. Set in Alabama in 1900, The Little Foxes follows the two as they clash in often brutal ways in an effort to strike the deal of their lives. Show Closed This production ended its run on July 2, 2017last_img read more

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MAKE: Grid Congestion in China Impacts 2014-2016 Global Outlook

first_imgMAKE identifies several market dynamics since the analysis in Q3/2014 that in aggregate result in a 0.4% downgrade in the ten-year outlook for grid-connected capacity. Adjustments in China, the Middle East and Africa have influenced a net downgrade, but the outlook for installed capacity is maintained with a slight upgrade of 0.2%. Demand has been front-loaded in several markets in order to capitalize on expiring incentives.MAKE’s Q4/2014 Global Wind Power Market Outlook Update presents how grid congestion in China impacts the 2014 to 2016 grid-connected forecast significantly, as a rush to complete projects ahead of an anticipated cut in the FIT will result in installations out-pacing available grid capacity. Thus, a contrasting outlook as grid-connected capacity is reduced over ten years while installed capacity increases.2014 grid-connected installations are reduced by 7.9% from last quarter, with MAKE expecting 2014 grid-connected installations of 44.7GW. Grid congestion in China, exacerbated by slow progress in development of new transmission lines, alone results in a 2.5GW cut. The widening grid gap in China is expected to lower YoY growth in installed capacity from 2018 and impact global market size in the back end of the forecast.Firm orders are down 12% YoY in Q3/2014, but a robust order backlog supports short-term market dynamics. Global firm order volume in Q3 increases in every region expect for North America. North America sees a 37% drop YoY, as order backlog has nearly fulfilled forecast expectations in the US and Canada. Net capacity in North America stays the same from Q3. Projects in the US continue to shift into 2015 setting up what will amount to the market’s third largest year of growth.The ten-year outlook in Europe is increased by 3.3%, as net upgrades are made in both onshore and offshore markets due to improved policy certainty in key markets.MAKE has evaluated progress toward government ambitions in the Middle East and Africa and has adjusted several market forecasts due to development delay and policy uncertainty. Despite a 10% downgrade over ten years, this region retains the leading global share of emerging growth.The Q4/2014 Global Wind Power Market Outlook Update includes a detailed market forecast update for more than 50 key and emerging markets for wind power from 2014 to 2023. The forecast data includes a split of expected onshore and offshore development, and analysis of the latest order and pricing trends.[mappress mapid=”14597″]Press release; Image: SUSPLAN (Illustration)last_img read more

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Judicial review plans prompt parliamentary alarm

first_imgA cross-party group of MPs and peers has reiterated its objection to a number of the government’s proposed reforms to curb the use of judicial review. In a report published today, the Joint Select Committee on Human Rights says the plans go too far in restricting access to court for people to hold the government to account for acting unlawfully.The committee expresses particular concern about the capping of costs, interveners’ costs and the power of the lord chancellor to redefine public interest proceedings.The reforms are set out in the Criminal Justice and Courts Bill, which is set for its report stage in the House of Lords next week.Dr Hywel Francis MP (pictured), chair of the committee, said the changes will make it more difficult for people to hold the government to account. ‘This is about upholding the rule of law, and we hope the House of Lords will amend the bill in ways we have recommended,’ he said. ‘This ought to stop the government from making it more difficult for it to be challenged in court.’The committee recommends amendments to part four of the bill – most notably removing plans to give the lord chancellor power to redefine ‘public interest’ proceedings.Other recommendations included taking away the statutory duty on courts to order an intervener to pay costs incurred by other parties except in ‘exceptional circumstances’.Members also propose restoring judicial discretion on costs and allowing courts to make a costs-capping order at any stage – not just in cases in which permission has been granted.The report adds: ‘The government’s argument that the taxpayer should not be expected to fund costs protection in unmeritorious cases has an attractive plausibility. ‘However, the practical problem with restricting cost-capping orders to cases in which permission has been granted is that meritorious public interest cases will not be brought because applicants cannot take the risk of exposure to pre-permission costs.’Lord chancellor Chris Grayling, appearing before the House of Lords constitution committee on Wednesday, said reforms of judicial review were ‘necessary, proportionate and dealing with an area that’s not working very well’.last_img read more

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Former Man City man says Phil Foden could be Tottenham’s next star

first_img1 Phil Foden has been told to leave Manchester City Phil Foden has been told it would be a better career move to join Tottenham than stay at Manchester City.The 17-year-old is regarded as one of the brightest prospects in English football.He has made four appearances for City this season and Pep Guardiola has been effusive in his praise of the youngster.But, according to former City defender Nedum Onuoha, Foden will struggle to progress at the Etihad due to the vast quality in City’s squad.Onouha believes a club like Spurs would provide more opportunities to the Under-17 World Cup and he should not be scared of leaving.Speaking to The Sun, he said: “Foden could be Spurs’ next star and then could come back to City – that would be great for him.“He is certainly good enough to play but, when you have brought in a mega money player, you don’t buy him not to play him.“It doesn’t mean Foden’s failed if he moves.”Onuoha, who played 116 times for City and is now at Queens Park Rangers, added: “Thinking about maybe having a 10-to-15-year career as such, you can’t really waste it. You can’t spend a year not playing if you’re fit.“In the end he will get what he deserves, whether that’s at City or somewhere else.”last_img read more

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South African para-cyclists shine at World Cup

first_img13 May 2014The South African Para-cycling team produced a series of top performances in the UCI World Cup in Castiglione, Italy on the weekend, highlighted by gold medals for Pieter du Preez and Justine Asher.Time trialA spectacular time trial route had the riders racing across a flat coastal foreland through Mediterranean coastal forest, with the smell of pine resin and the singing of a few early cicadas adding much to the ambience.The largely non-technical nature of the circuit proved deceptive in the way that it enticed the unwary rider to go out too fast and to not leave enough in reserve for the return section.GoldH1 hand-cyclist Pieter du Preez adapted to the challenges brilliantly to capture gold in his class. Ernst van Dyk picked up a silver medal in the H5 hand-cycling category, while George Rex added a bronze in the T1 tri-cycling class.While Justine Asher used the event to prepare for the following day’s road race, a number of other riders performed well: C3 cyclist Craig Ridgard, competing in his first international tour, finished respectably in the middle of his group; Stuart McCreadie finished fifth in the H3 category; and youngster Yusthin Lintnaar finished sixth, ahead of former Italian T2 world champion Giorgio Farroni.Road raceCompletely different to the time trial route in terms of a technical challenge, the route selected for the road race threaded its way through the narrow streets of Castiglione della Pescaia and the even narrower country roads extending out of town into the postcard landscape of olive groves and vineyards.As the first South African rider Stuart McCreadie discovered, the route made it extremely difficult to maintain a place in the lead group and he lost touch with it towards the end of the 65 km race. Nonetheless, he finished in a very competitive seventh place.George Rex, using lighter gears than in the time trial (to accelerate quickly out of the route’s myriad tight corners) improved on his previous day’s results by claiming a silver medal.His T2 tricycling teammate Lintnaar rode to a pre-set race plan, which worked perfectly and positioned him for a fourth place result after a sprint finish, one bike length behind Paralympian gold medallist David Stone, who finished third. The result was unfortunately later overturned when Lintnaar was disqualified for an infringement.HighlightA highlight performance of the day was Justine Asher’s gold medal win in the H2 category and the award to her of the World Cup champion’s jersey for her outstanding overall performance in the first leg of the season’s road race series.Pieter du Preez added a silver in his event to his time trial gold, while Ernst van Dyk picked up a bronze medal after a three-way sprint to the line to go with his silver in the time trial.SAinfo reporterlast_img read more

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Sumo wrestler Harumafuji retires over assault allegations

first_imgEthel Booba on hotel’s clarification that ‘kikiam’ is ‘chicken sausage’: ‘Kung di pa pansinin, baka isipin nila ok lang’ MOST READ Robredo: True leaders perform well despite having ‘uninspiring’ boss PLAY LIST 02:49Robredo: True leaders perform well despite having ‘uninspiring’ boss02:42PH underwater hockey team aims to make waves in SEA Games01:44Philippines marks anniversary of massacre with calls for justice01:19Fire erupts in Barangay Tatalon in Quezon City01:07Trump talks impeachment while meeting NCAA athletes02:49World-class track facilities installed at NCC for SEA Games Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next Love scores 38, LeBron ejected as Cavs beat Heat Hotel says PH coach apologized for ‘kikiam for breakfast’ claim LATEST STORIES Malditas save PH from shutout After 30 years, Johnlu Koa still doing ‘hard-to-make’ quality breads Harumafuji’s retirement is the latest scandal to rock the sumo world.In 2011, the JSA decided to cancel the Spring Grand Sumo Tournament after revelations that 14 wrestlers were involved with match-fixing.In 2010, grand champion Asashoryu, also of Mongolia, announced his retirement following reports that he injured a man while intoxicated.             /kgaADVERTISEMENTcenter_img In this November, 2012 photo, Mongolian yokozuna Harumafuji performs his first ring-entering ceremony during Grand Sumo tournament in Fukuoka, southern Japan. Harumafuji has decided to retire from sumo after allegations that he assaulted a lower-ranked wrestler and tarnished the image of Japan’s national sport. Harumafuji’s stable-master Isegahama announced the grand champion’s retirement on Wednesday, Nov. 29, 2017. (Kyodo News via AP)TOKYO — Mongolian grand champion Harumafuji has decided to retire from sumo after allegations that he assaulted a lower-ranked wrestler and tarnished the image of Japan’s national sport.Harumafuji’s stable-master Isegahama announced the grand champion’s retirement on Wednesday. He said that Harumafuji “has caused great trouble to the association and the public” and that the grand champion bears responsibility.ADVERTISEMENT MRT 7 on track for partial opening in 2021 Jordan delivers on promise: 2 Cobra choppers now in PH Harumafuji allegedly struck Takanoiwa with his palms, fists, and a karaoke machine remote control at a drinking party in late October, fracturing Takanoiwa’s skull and causing other injuries.The Japan Sumo Association, which imposes strict rules on wrestlers, is conducting an investigation, but Harumafuji decided to retire ahead of the probe.FEATURED STORIESSPORTSSEA Games: Biñan football stadium stands out in preparedness, completionSPORTSPrivate companies step in to help SEA Games hostingSPORTSBoxers Pacquiao, Petecio torchbearers for SEA Games openingThe news has dominated Japanese television talk shows and evening newspapers for weeks as the nation expressed shock at claims against a yokozuna grand champion, whose behavior in sports and society is expected to be exemplary.Born Davaanyam Byambadorj, Harumafuji debuted in 2001 and has won the championship nine times, with his most recent victory at the autumn tournament in September. He was promoted to yokozuna, the sport’s highest rank, in 2012. The Fatted Calf and Ayutthaya: New restos worth the drive to Tagaytay Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. ‘A complete lie:’ Drilon refutes ‘blabbermouth’ Salo’s claims View commentslast_img read more

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Dan Dakich Got In A Twitter Argument With The Mayor Of Champaign, Illinois Over Controversial Technical Foul

first_imgFoul shots in Illinois-Michigan State game.GFYCatThe ending of this afternoon’s Illinois-Michigan State game featured a very controversial technical foul against the Illini with 33 seconds remaining. After the release of a free throw by Michigan State’s Travis Trice, Illinois’ Jaylon Tate was called for the foul while going to attempt to box out the shooter.Illinois had a 55-53 lead at the time, and wound up hanging on for the win, but the three free throws and possession given to Michigan State had Illini fans very nervous. After the game, ESPN analyst Dan Dakich, who was on the call, shared his opinion of the call on Twitter, and got into a pretty nasty argument with Champaign, IL mayor Don Gerard.Hitting a defenseless ft shooter below the belt w ur arm hand or rear end has ALWAYS BEEN and will ALWAYS BE a foul..— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, 2015Simple call..Shooter has to be protected..can’t hit him below the belt finishing shot..ez call n tough spot..some of u should not b muting— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, [email protected] I’m wrong – the refs are wrong yet ur right.. Politicians..always full of stuff..u may b a mayor I’m glad ur not my mayor— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, [email protected] keep turning down jobs..mine is too good..un mute would help you..cuz u don’t know much apparently..keep posturing skippy— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, [email protected] again a mayor knowing nothing..or lying ..Stumpy?? 6′ 5″ and long!! HAHA..— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, [email protected] ur seriously the mayor? U retweet fake accounts pick battles over things u know nothing about..whatever it takes I suppose— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, 2015Lying again Mr Mayor? Said u mute..ur so easy/simple “@DonGerard: @dandakich .seriously, you tweet like a 13-year-old #commentarysimilartoo”— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, 2015Eventually, Dakich posted the statement from the referees and decided that he was done with the back-and-forth.Here ya go pic.twitter.com/eltiEyA6Oi— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, 2015Another day another ridiculous mayor w egg on his face!! It’s what I do!! Enjoy ur evening I’ve got @CuseSB to watch— Dan Dakich (@dandakich) February 7, 2015Dakich is no stranger to getting into arguments on the internet, but we don’t usually see him go after local politicians.last_img read more

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